Confession: I hate when people assume that, because I’m an editor, I must be judging and correcting their grammar at all times.
Newsflash: I have better things to do with my time. It’s not all about you.
I don’t care about your grammar. Unless you pay me to care. And even then? I don’t care if you make mistakes. I care about fixing mistakes. You pay me to help you put out the best writing possible. And that’s what I do.
Do I notice grammar mistakes and typos? Sure. But listen. If you’re not paying me, I don’t need to put my language knowledge on display. And if I really need to put my language knowledge on display, there are plenty of other ways to do it besides bringing other people down.
Do I dislike the increasing number of grammar mistakes people make? Yes, I do. But rather than pointing it out (which, frankly, is annoying and time consuming), I publish grammar tricks to make it easy for you to get it right–on your own.
I prefer to empower, not debase.
The truth is that some people just don’t give a damn about their grammar. And those people aren’t worth my time or energy. Grammar Nazis, and what they stand for, come from a very negative, self-righteous place. That’s not where I am or care to be.